R1:939fb69aa68b

Be less strict when detecting dead daemons

Summary:
Fixes T12306. Currently, we warn about daemons not running even if they're in normal "alive" states, particularly "waiting to restart after a failure".

This check was made more strict in D12088, back when we tried to version check running daemons. Since we implemented auto-restart-after-config-change we don't do this anymore, so it should be fine to make this more lax again.

Test Plan:
- Faked an exception for all tasks.
- Before patch: reloading…