R1:c21301d153a9

Conpherence - fix 0 messages in header race condition

Summary:
Fixes T7545. Turns out we had the right logic to handle this basically, and just needed to variablize the CSS class that gets added / removed as appropos.

Note the new behavior is to keep the icon highlighted just with no number. This emulates how it would work if e.g. there was no unread message in the first place and you just clicked the message icon to invoke the message menu.

Test Plan: had a durable conpherence open for user A with user…